Executive Director of Parent Engagment Network, where our mission is to support parents in raising healthy, happy youth. Adjunct professor at CU Denver. Writer, researcher, & speaker specializing in parent-child relationships, raising resilient teens, and parenting after divorce or separation.
Recently, a mother said to me, “My son spends too much time gaming! My husband and I are at our wits end! What do I do?” This can be a challenging situation and every family has their own level of tolerance for gaming. I wish I could say that I didn’t feel her pain. However, as a parent of a teen, I too have faced this question. Here are three things to consider.
Developing your online presence is an art form. Ultimately, it is shaped by your purpose for being online in the first place. Are you hoping to share your experiences? Create discussions around opinions? Develop a clientele? Sell a product? Maybe it is a mix of several of the above. This is the first in a series of five posts designed to help you develop your online presence. Let’s start by considering what it is and why you want one?
Communication involves expressing your ideas and feelings, as well as accurately receiving the ideas expressed by others. But, communication is more than just the exchange of words. Originating from the Latin word “communis”, communication means to establish a sense of “commonness” through what we say, how we say it, why we say it, when we say it, as well as what we don’t say. Marian-Webster defines commonness as “belonging to or shared by two or more individuals or things or by all members of a group”. As parents, we share a sense of commonness through the parent-child relationship.
What is self-determination? When we act with self-determination, we rely on our own “natural” or “intrinsic” tendency to behave in ways that help us to be effective. When people are intrinsically motivated, they do things because they are personally interested or enjoy what they are doing. When someone is extrinsically motivated, they will only participate in something because they believe they will get some sort of external incentive or reward.
Who will lead us into the future? Our children. In the rapidly changing age of technology, we have no choice but to compete in a global economy. If we choose to stand still, the rest of the world will pass us by. This film brings to life several issues facing our current education system: failing schools, lagging test scores, and unqualified teachers. Through this lens, the film sets the foundation for what our future holds. The film shares, “Among 30 developed countries, we rank 25th in math and 21st in science.” They go on to say that the United states has fallen behind in almost every category, except one. Students rank the highest in student confidence, with 72% believing they rank high in academics. What does this say to you?
Waiting for Superman is a documentary of five young people, ranging from first graders to high school students. Each of these students is motivated to gain a good high school education and go to college, without Continue reading “Waiting for Superman”
Divorced parents can feel alienated, lost, and scared that the relationship they have with their child may slip away. It is important for parents to know that they are not alone in the range of emotions initiated as the family adjusts to the many changes they experience. Feelings of sadness and fear around losing day-to-day contact with children are coupled with frustrations around finding the adequate support and resources needed to maintain this important and treasured relationship. This may be especially true for the nonresidential father living away from their children. Not only do contemporary fathers express a strong desire to remain active in their children’s lives, research shows this involvement can protect kids from the harmful effects that have been connected to divorce. Safe, secure web communication tools can offer Continue reading “Hope For Divorced Parents”
Divorce is rated as one of the most stressful life experiences people encounter. Dealing with your stress is important to living a productive life and requires paying attention to your emotional needs and letting go of issues that you cannot control. When you are a parent, having less contact with your children can create an emotional void and sometimes you have little control over the amount of one-on-one contact you have with your children.