Teenagers are a breed of their own, and raising teenagers is not an easy task. Recently, I was invited to speak with Steven Spierer on Talk Radio One about raising teenagers and building healthy parent-child relationships. Having raised teenagers himself, Mr. Spierer frequently incorporates information about parenting into his show. Check out his website at http://www.talkradioone.com/ He has some great stuff!
Shelly D. Mahon on the Steven Spierer Show
The need to feel as though our behavior is truly chosen, not imposed upon us, may be its strongest during adolescents. During this time between childhood and adulthood, teens are striving for independence at the same time that they still need guidance from their parents. As children move into adolescence, they are motivated by a strong desire to be seen as more mature, capable of making decisions, and worthy of being treated as though they are getting older. Just the other day a 12 year old girl said to me, “I really don’t like Paul [a 20-something year old in her martial arts class] because he treats me like I am a little kid. I know that I am not grown up, Continue reading “Motivating Teens: The Role of Independence”
Have you ever found yourself doing something for fear of negative consequences? Ever tried to achieve something difficult, just to prove to yourself that you can? Have you ever pushed yourself to do a dreaded task, only to find you truly love what you are doing? Think about each of these scenarios. Why do we do what we do? What is the source of our motivation? Motivation can be thought of as a movement away from pain or toward pleasure. You may do your best on a project at work to avoid getting laid off. This is a movement away from pain. You may bump up your training miles so that you can run a marathon. Gaining the personal satisfaction of completing a marathon is a movement toward pleasure.
We have all done things to avoid pain or feel pleasure. In fact, chances are good that we have all used these strategies to influence our teen’s actions. Think about these scenarios. “Be nice to your sister, or you will Continue reading “Motivating Teens: Pain, Pleasure, & the Pressure to Achieve”
I am an avid runner and have recently started heart rate training. I did this about five years ago, but after some time it fell to the wayside. Now, I am back at it! As I remembered, slowing myself down is the hardest part!
I figured I would read up on the facts this time around. Your heart rate tells you the intensity of your work out. How intense you train depends on your fitness goals. If you are a beginner runner, heart rate training can help you understand how your body reacts to running. It also helps you control your workouts so that you don’t over train or hurt yourself. If you have some experience with running, heart rate training can help you Continue reading “Heart Rate Training: How Does it Work?”
Have you ever wished you could motivate your teen by offering him a sucker or providing her with an opportunity to earn a desired toy after putting enough gold stars on the calendar? This may have worked when your child was younger, but life with a teenager is much more complicated! In order to understand how to motivate teenagers, we have to develop a better idea of what motivation is and where it comes from.
So, what is motivation? In general, motivation is a set of reasons that affect our choice to engage and persist in a given act or behavior. That means that motivation guides our decision-making. It guides both our initial Continue reading “Motivating Teens: Why Can’t We Just Give Them Gold Stars?”
Improving communication with your teen can be challenging, but never-the-less, one of the most important things you can do to have a strong, long-lasting relationship. The trouble is, it can be hard to get children to talk once they hit the teenage years. What can you do about this? Below are 5 things you can do to improve communication with your teen.
1. Make time for them: Young children spend a vast amount of time with their parents because they Continue reading “What Parents Can Do To Improve Communication with Their Teen”
Recently, a mother said to me, “My son spends too much time gaming! My husband and I are at our wits end! What do I do?” This can be a challenging situation and every family has their own level of tolerance for gaming. I wish I could say that I didn’t feel her pain. However, as a parent of a teen, I too have faced this question. Here are three things to consider.
First, restricting the amount of time spent gaming is always an option. Sometimes this is not just putting Continue reading “Does Your Teen Spend Too Much Time Gaming?”