Motivating Teens: What Does Self-Control Have To Do With It?

Think back to when you were 4 years old.  What would you do if someone put you in a room with a marshmallow and asked you not to eat it?  What if the person said you could have two marshmallows if you could wait 15 minutes to eat it? Would it be easier to hold … Continue reading Motivating Teens: What Does Self-Control Have To Do With It?

Motivating Teens: The Role of Independence

The need to feel as though our behavior is truly chosen, not imposed upon us, may be its strongest during adolescents.  During this time between childhood and adulthood, teens are striving for independence at the same time that they still need guidance from their parents.  As children move into adolescence, they are motivated by a … Continue reading Motivating Teens: The Role of Independence

Motivating Teens: Pain, Pleasure, & the Pressure to Achieve

Have you ever found yourself doing something for fear of negative consequences?  Ever tried to achieve something difficult, just to prove to yourself that you can?  Have you ever pushed yourself to do a dreaded task, only to find you truly love what you are doing?  Think about each of these scenarios. Why do we … Continue reading Motivating Teens: Pain, Pleasure, & the Pressure to Achieve

Motivating Teens: Why Can’t We Just Give Them Gold Stars?

Have you ever wished you could motivate your teen by offering him a sucker or providing her with an opportunity to earn a desired toy after putting enough gold stars on the calendar? This may have worked when your child was younger, but life with a teenager is much more complicated!  In order to understand … Continue reading Motivating Teens: Why Can’t We Just Give Them Gold Stars?

Motivating Teens: Developing Self-Determination

How do You Motivate Teens? Teens Need Self-Determination! What is self-determination? When we act with self-determination, we  rely on our own "natural" or "intrinsic" tendency to behave in ways that help us to be effective.  When people are intrinsically motivated, they do things because they are personally interested or enjoy what they are doing. When … Continue reading Motivating Teens: Developing Self-Determination