Hope For Divorced Parents

Divorced parents can feel alienated, lost, and scared that the relationship they have with their child may slip away. It is important for parents to know that they are not alone in the range of emotions initiated as the family adjusts to the many changes they experience. Feelings of sadness and fear around losing day-to-day contact with children are coupled with frustrations around finding the adequate support and resources needed to maintain this important and treasured relationship. This may be especially true for the nonresidential father living away from their children. Not only do contemporary fathers express a strong desire to remain active in their children’s lives, research shows this involvement can protect kids from the harmful effects that have been connected to divorce. Safe, secure web communication tools can offer easy-to-use, and interactive contexts were nonresidential fathers can have day-to-day communication and interaction with their children. Fathers contribute to their child’s development by being a reliable and genuine parent. When fathers maintain a constant presence, they affirm that they love and care for their children. One father shared how applying these ideas helped his relationship with his son.

He has always known I am here and what I will do for him…he can depend on me for whatever he needs….hopefully that has allowed him to lean on me….and given him some strength.

There are many ways in which web-based products can help distant parents be reliable and genuine with their children. Sharing a calendar keeps you informed of the important events taking place in your child’s life. Sending a private, secure message to inquire about a recent test your child took not only shows you care, but also opens the door for your child to talk to you if the test didn’t go well. Uploading a picture that reminds you of your child shows that you were thinking of them. Dropping a quick video message of something you are doing shares a piece of you with your child. Children from divorce want a relationship with both of their parents. The web can provide an interactive meeting place and tools for you to maintain and continue to grow your relationship with your child. Using web-based technology to keep a strong and healthy relationship with your child can seem like a daunting, confusing and scary task. As a parent, you need safe, secure, all-in-one web communication tools to face the fear of losing your child. Through ongoing interactions, you will continue to experience exhilaration and moments that you will never forget.

http://etendi.com is a privately-held company located in Boulder, Colorado. We’ve been in business since 2003 and we love what we do.

We have a strong commitment to excellence in technology and an even stronger commitment to our families. We have experienced first-hand the pain of being separated from loved ones, from divorce, business travel and from parents or grandparents in other parts of the country or even other parts of the world.

We believe that kids need both of their parents and that families need to stay connected, even when distance intrudes. That’s why we built etendi BRIDGE.

You can depend on us to give you technology that you can use to improve the quality of your life and to be responsive to your needs to continuously improve our products and services for you.

http://etendi.com is dedicated to making the world a better place, one family at a time.

Shelly D. Mahon, University of Wisconsin-Madison, Human Development and Family Studies. Ms Mahon is a doctoral candidate at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. 1430 Linden Dr, Madison, WI 53706-1575, Phone: 608-263-2381, Email: shelly@shellydmahon.com

© 2009/2010 Shelly D. Mahon

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Author: Shelly D Mahon

I have been working with families and teens for almost 20 years, and teaching in a university setting since the year 2000. My commitment is that parents have the support and resources they need to take care of themselves and foster the growth and development of their children. ABOUT ME I have a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS) and over 20 years of experience working with youth and families. No matter what your family structure, I am committed to helping you make your family work. I can guid you in effectively managing divorce, strengthening parent-child relationships, embracing the teenage years, reducing risks and increasing resiliency in your families. If fostering the growth and development of your children is important to you, I am committed to working with you. APART, NOT BROKEN: LEARN, CONNECT, & CREATE! Apart, Not Broken is for divorced or separated parents who want to: Move past fear, pain, & guilt Create the life they want with their child Manage their relationship with their ex Contribute to others Be the creator of their future The program gives you a place to: Learn: Hear others real experiences and insights. Receive information and recommendations that can make a measurable difference in adjusting and parenting after separation or divorce. Connect: Join an online community. Learn to use creative strategies to connect with your child and manage your relationship with their ex-partner. Create: Feel powerful in your ability to be the parent YOU want to be. Create the relationship YOU want with their child by building on existing strengths, starting new traditions, and creating lasting memories. This program has: – Videos reflecting real life experiences; – Online tools for sharing photos, comparing calendars, communicating, and more; – Current & concise information about divorce & parenting after divorce; – Engaging activities to enjoy with their child; & – Additional resources to build their own parenting toolbox. Happy Parenting, Shelly I took my first Human Development and Family Studies course as an undergraduate at 18 years old. This was the beginning of a lifetime love and commitment to this field. I have another online program Parenting Through Middle School. I am the mother of two teens myself. This has been an interesting journey and quite the adventure. Over the years, I have learned that parenting takes a lot of energy, but it is well worth the effort. To me, parenting brings to life an ever-changing spectrum of human emotion. It is filled with moments of love, excitement, anticipation, expectations, fears, hopes, and dreams. It has made me laugh and cry, sometimes at the same time! Just when I think I have everything figured out, my children change. In these moments I realize that I too must change. As they grow, I find myself looking for the balance between teaching them my values, beliefs, and interests and helping them discover and develop into their own unique individual characters. I love to exercise, eat well, sing and play my piano. My favorite sports are running, mountain biking, hiking, snowshoeing, snowboarding, yoga, Pilates, and most recently, road biking. Happy Parenting! Shelly

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