Mom: Sherpa, Supporter, & Number 1 Fan

Since it is Mother’s day, let’s talk about moms. Moms become moms the day they find out they are pregnant. Before the baby even enters the world, moms feel responsible for taking care of this new life MomTeenby providing it with the most nurturing environment she can inside her body. And, babies make themselves known! They are the source of morning sickness, kicks to the bladder, sleepless nights, and the inability to tie one’s own shoes anymore. For me, coffee made me sick and I could smell rotten produce a mile away! Mothers greet their baby with open arms the day it is born, but their hearts and souls already know each other.

Most moms say that having their first child was a distinct experience; there’s nothing quite like it! Expecting moms spend months wondering things like: “What is this really going to be like?” “Can I do this?” “Will I every have time for myself again?” You may have had different questions depending on your circumstances and how prepared you were to have a child. Regardless, becoming a mom probably left you with feelings of anxiety, joy, worry and excitement.

A good friend gave me some of the best “advice” I received with my first child. He said, “Your child will not know any different. Whatever you do will be normal and perfect in his/her eyes.” Of course, as children get older they start to notice that other families do things different. There is still a comforting feeling associated with going home after a rockin’ sleepover or a fun weekend vacation with another family. There is nothing quite like coming coming home.

With all this thought about what it means to be a mom, I decided to ask some teen how they would describe their mom. Here are some of the things they said.

“A mom is the best support system anyone can have. She is someone you can always rely on to support and love you no matter what you do. She is helpful and loving and kind.”

“A mom is someone that makes you. She buys you food, drives you places, and always loves you.”

“A mom is a guide. She is your Sherpa in life. She won’t do things for you, but she will help you reach the top of the mountain. She sets you free when you’re ready to go.”

“A mother is someone with whom mistakes don’t matter. In any relationship, people are bound to mess up. Both mothers and kids inevitably do so. This can break other relationships, but there is something about mothers in which the bond is really quite special and unbreakable.”

As you go through your day, think about what “mom” means to you. If you would like, please share your thoughts in the comment section.

Have a magical day and happy parenting!

Shelly

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Author: Shelly D Mahon

I have been working with families and teens for almost 20 years, and teaching in a university setting since the year 2000. My commitment is that parents have the support and resources they need to take care of themselves and foster the growth and development of their children. ABOUT ME I have a Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies (HDFS) and over 20 years of experience working with youth and families. No matter what your family structure, I am committed to helping you make your family work. I can guid you in effectively managing divorce, strengthening parent-child relationships, embracing the teenage years, reducing risks and increasing resiliency in your families. If fostering the growth and development of your children is important to you, I am committed to working with you. APART, NOT BROKEN: LEARN, CONNECT, & CREATE! Apart, Not Broken is for divorced or separated parents who want to: Move past fear, pain, & guilt Create the life they want with their child Manage their relationship with their ex Contribute to others Be the creator of their future The program gives you a place to: Learn: Hear others real experiences and insights. Receive information and recommendations that can make a measurable difference in adjusting and parenting after separation or divorce. Connect: Join an online community. Learn to use creative strategies to connect with your child and manage your relationship with their ex-partner. Create: Feel powerful in your ability to be the parent YOU want to be. Create the relationship YOU want with their child by building on existing strengths, starting new traditions, and creating lasting memories. This program has: – Videos reflecting real life experiences; – Online tools for sharing photos, comparing calendars, communicating, and more; – Current & concise information about divorce & parenting after divorce; – Engaging activities to enjoy with their child; & – Additional resources to build their own parenting toolbox. Happy Parenting, Shelly I took my first Human Development and Family Studies course as an undergraduate at 18 years old. This was the beginning of a lifetime love and commitment to this field. I have another online program Parenting Through Middle School. I am the mother of two teens myself. This has been an interesting journey and quite the adventure. Over the years, I have learned that parenting takes a lot of energy, but it is well worth the effort. To me, parenting brings to life an ever-changing spectrum of human emotion. It is filled with moments of love, excitement, anticipation, expectations, fears, hopes, and dreams. It has made me laugh and cry, sometimes at the same time! Just when I think I have everything figured out, my children change. In these moments I realize that I too must change. As they grow, I find myself looking for the balance between teaching them my values, beliefs, and interests and helping them discover and develop into their own unique individual characters. I love to exercise, eat well, sing and play my piano. My favorite sports are running, mountain biking, hiking, snowshoeing, snowboarding, yoga, Pilates, and most recently, road biking. Happy Parenting! Shelly

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