Since it is Mother’s day, let’s talk about moms. Moms become moms the day they find out they are pregnant. Before the baby even enters the world, moms feel responsible for taking care of this new life by providing it with the most nurturing environment she can inside her body. And, babies make themselves known! They are the source of morning sickness, kicks to the bladder, sleepless nights, and the inability to tie one’s own shoes anymore. For me, coffee made me sick and I could smell rotten produce a mile away! Mothers greet their baby with open arms the day it is born, but their hearts and souls already know each other.
Most moms say that having their first child was a distinct experience; there’s nothing quite like it! Expecting moms spend months wondering things like: “What is this really going to be like?” “Can I do this?” “Will I every have time for myself again?” You may have had different questions depending on your circumstances and how prepared you were to have a child. Regardless, becoming a mom probably left you with feelings of anxiety, joy, worry and excitement.
A good friend gave me some of the best “advice” I received with my first child. He said, “Your child will not know any different. Whatever you do will be normal and perfect in his/her eyes.” Of course, as children get older they start to notice that other families do things different. There is still a comforting feeling associated with going home after a rockin’ sleepover or a fun weekend vacation with another family. There is nothing quite like coming coming home.
With all this thought about what it means to be a mom, I decided to ask some teen how they would describe their mom. Here are some of the things they said.
“A mom is the best support system anyone can have. She is someone you can always rely on to support and love you no matter what you do. She is helpful and loving and kind.”
“A mom is someone that makes you. She buys you food, drives you places, and always loves you.”
“A mom is a guide. She is your Sherpa in life. She won’t do things for you, but she will help you reach the top of the mountain. She sets you free when you’re ready to go.”
“A mother is someone with whom mistakes don’t matter. In any relationship, people are bound to mess up. Both mothers and kids inevitably do so. This can break other relationships, but there is something about mothers in which the bond is really quite special and unbreakable.”
As you go through your day, think about what “mom” means to you. If you would like, please share your thoughts in the comment section.
Have a magical day and happy parenting!